Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

What does a healthy relationship look like?

A good question, in theory, but expert couple's therapist Julie Menanno wants you to ask a slightly different one: what does a securely attached relationship feel like?

Moving from the way things look to others to the way they feel, this is a ground-breaking guide to secure attachment in adult relationships. Full of expert advice, Secure Love helps you explore how to increase your capacity for true intimacy. Designed to help you find and sustain love, this book will teach you how to dig into your childhood attachments, label your needs, stay connected during conflict and communicate from a place of vulnerability to build a relationship that lasts a lifetime.

Review

With Secure Love, you’ll be armed with eternal wisdom for strengthening your relationship. Julie Menanno exquisitely explores the science behind attachment theory, how our earliest relationships impact our relationship today, and how to create a deeper bond together. A must read for any couple or therapist -- Dr. Sue Johnson, bestselling author of HOLD ME TIGHT

An essential, empowering and practical guide to navigating relationships. Filled with real-life examples from her work as a therapist, Julie Menanno teaches us how to connect with our partners to create a felt sense of safety, security and comfort, even when challenging times inevitably emerge -- Jessica Baum, author of ANXIOUSLY ATTACHED

As a therapist, I've seen thousands of people desperately wanting better relationships but not knowing what that means or how to create them. In Secure Love, Julie Menanno offers a practical, easy-to-understand guide to how attachment theory underlies the challenging patterns we bring into adult relationships and what we can all do to create the secure, lasting love we desire. This is a must-read for every couple, at any stage of their relationship -- Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE

An incredibly wise and helpful guide to help all of us fabulously flawed humans give and receive the love we deserve. No romantic partnership should be without it -- Jen Sincero, New York Times bestselling author of YOU ARE A BADASS

Compassionate, humane, and extremely helpful. Julie Menanno’s Secure Love is a must read for anyone wanting to improve their relationships and gain a greater understanding of why they had trouble in the first place. Becoming a better partner is a lifelong journey, and Menanno’s book is a vital part of that path -- Kati Morton, bestselling author of Are u ok? & TRAUMATIZED

This book will wisely and warmly take you by the hand and show how tuning into your past experiences of relationships can transform your present relationship. Julie Menanno digs deep into attachment theory, making it accessible and meaningful for anyone who wants to improve the atmosphere of their couple relationship and find more productive ways to communicate with each other -- Joanna Harrison, author of FIVE ARGUMENTS ALL COUPLES (NEED TO) HAVE

About the Author

Julie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children.