On Our Best Behaviour: The Price Women Pay to Be Good

A provocative manifesto on what it means for women to be 'good' - and what happens when we stop.


In this groundbreaking exploration of the ancient rules that women unwittingly follow in order to be considered 'good', journalist and podcast host Elise Loehnen explains that these impulses - for instance, to show restraint, to be selfless or to prove ourselves in a male-dominated workplace - are ingrained in us by a patriarchal culture that reaps the benefits. So, what would happen if we stopped trying to be 'good'?

Provocative and bold, On Our Best Behaviour reveals an enlightening path towards a more balanced, fulfilled way to live.

Review

[On Our Best Behaviour] is a thought-provoking read that holds up a mirror to society . . . I devoured this book, even breaking out the highlighters and sticky tabs to mark my favourite quotes. It puts into words experiences I, and many other women, have known but may not have had the words to articulate until now. An absolute must read piece of non-fiction this year ― Fashion Journal

A deep dive into the everyday challenges faced by 30- and 40-something women, and an insightful look into the deeper societal forces at play. If you are Gen X you will feel ― Primer: 21 of the Best Books We Read This Year

An engaging work that offers an opportunity for pause and reflection regarding our daily choices ― Kirkus Reviews

A deep dive into my own psyche of questioning everything -- Sara Haines ― The View

You will finish this book and immediately hand your copy over to your best friend -- Jennifer Aniston

A fascinating read . . . it blows your mind. I highly recommend this book . . . I left feeling energized and galvanized to take back my true f**king freedom. And I hope it has the same impact on you -- Jameela Jamil ― iWeigh

About the Author

Elise Loehnen is the host of Pulling the Thread. She has co-written twelve books, five of which were New York Times bestsellers. Elise was the chief content officer of goop - a lifestyle and e-commerce company - where she co-hosted The goop Podcast and The goop Lab on Netflix. Previously, she was the editorial projects director of Condé Nast Traveler. Elise lives in Los Angeles with her husband and two sons.