How to Be Selfish

IT'S TIME TO START LIVING LIKE YOU MATTER TOO

In How to Be Selfish, chartered psychologist Suzy Reading challenges everything we’ve learnt about selflessness, and dispels the widely accepted myths about what it is to be 'selfish'.

Drawing on somatic therapy, neuroscience and psychology, alongside highly effective coaching tools and techniques, Suzy presents seven steps to guide you towards reclaiming your peace and your power. We can only become calmer, stronger, well-rested people by prioritising ourselves and also allowing others to fill up our cup. It is time to receive!

By reclaiming the right to self and honing the skills of self-advocacy, we deepen the authenticity of our bonds, we protect the energy to take care of others and also tend to our own needs and ambitions without depletion.

Understanding the true glory of being able to embrace 'selfishness' is our opportunity to break the cycle of stress and toxic productivity, disrupt patriarchal pressure and transform the way we live, love, work and parent.

Review

The 7 steps to self-love everyone needs to thrive. Suzy Reading gently walks you through each step so you can stop shrinking yourself to fit in and find the quiet courage to choose yourself, without apology. Selfish isn’t bad, it’s the first step to self-advocacy. ― Dr Martha Deiros Collado, clinical psychologist and author of How to Be the Grown Up

This book is balm for the burnt-out. Gentle, liberating and deeply validating. A must-read for anyone who has ever struggled with people-pleasing or perfectionism. ― Anna Mathur, psychotherapist and bestselling author of The Uncomfortable Truth

You had me at ‘It’s time to start living like you matter too.' Bravo. I will be buying this book for every woman in my life. ― Emma Bardwell, registered nutritionist and bestselling author of The 30g Plan

Suzy's words of wisdom will guide you, comfort you and empower you to take those vital first steps to reclaiming yourself and living life to the full. This book is like having a best friend, therapist and cheer squad all in one. This book is like a confidence-boosting boot camp! A brilliant toolkit for self-belief and self-worth. ― Helen Thorn, comedian, podcaster and bestselling author of Get Divorced, Be Happy

If you've ever felt guilty for saying no, or for expressing your needs, you need this book in your life! Written with Suzy's signature warmth and compassion, it will empower you with all the tools you need to start reclaiming the life you deserve. Truly, I feel that every woman in my life will benefit from this beautiful book! ― Samantha Hadadi, health coach and author of Hormone Goddess

How to Be Selfish is a deeply compassionate and empowering guide to coming home to yourself. With wisdom and warmth, Suzy shows us how easily we lose sight of who we are when we’re shaped by other people’s expectations, and how life-changing it can be to reclaim the right to feel and to belong first to ourselves. This book is both practical and profound - a roadmap back to authenticity. ― Emma Reed Turrell, psychotherapist and author of Please Yourself and What Am I Missing?

This book is a beautiful and powerful reminder that many of the things we call selfish – rest, pleasure, saying ‘no’ – are actually sacred. ― Nicola Jane Hobbs, psychotherapist and author of The Relaxed Woman

This book is a game-changer for any women who struggles to prioritise her own needs. Suzy brings a no nonsense, theory driven, approach to enable you to centre your own needs and advocate for yourself in your own life. ― Emma Hepburn, clinical psychologist and author of A Toolkit for Modern Life

Honestly, I don’t think I’ve ever been as excited for a self-help book release as I am for this one - the world needs Suzy’s wisdom. ― Helen Marie, psychotherapist and author of Choose You

Suzy is a shining light in the darkness of healing. She is the total embodiment of compassion and empathy in all the work she does. She teaches us all that the smallest of steps make the biggest impact on our journey to self love, inner peace and resilience. I am one of many who hugely benefits from her words, thoughts and ideas. ― Laura Belbin, @knee_deep_in_life

About the Author

Suzy Reading is a chartered psychologist, yoga teacher, coach and mother of two. Suzy has over two decades of experience in the health and wellbeing industry, and draws from multiple modalities, together with psychology, to help people build sustainable healthy lifestyle habits. She is one of the top UK experts on self-care. Suzy is the Psychology Expert for NEOM Wellbeing, and a founding member of the 'Nourish' app. She is the author of eight other books, including Rest to Reset and The Self-Care Revolution.